The other night my boyfriend and I got in a giant fight. It's all settled down (so settled, in fact, that he had totally forgotten about it today until I reminded him).

Basically, what happened, in an nut, is that I did something that triggered his triggers (without knowing it), and then he triggered mine, which created a trigger session, which led to simultaneous shame spirals and mutual shaming, which resulted in more triggering... And then I got so angry I couldn't see straight, but he kept wanting to talk, and so I did the unthinkable and I EXPRESSED MY ANGER!! I used the F word and everything. And, you know what? It felt really great. And, you know what else? He got the message. And you know what else? I think I'm going to start getting angry more often in life. It's a lot more fun than imploding and it makes my skin look better.

Just for today, I can get angry.