When I was in my phase of reading formulaic dating books (written by people who whose lives are apparently lived north of the cerebellum), I made many lists about what I wanted in a partner that included things like:

Attractive
Educated
Financially Stable
Family Values
And Blah, Blah, Blah, Boring, Boring, Boring

Many of these lists amounted to the creation of a very nice nice male robot. Throw in a sense of humor and I could have a nice witty robot. What ever happened to coziness? None of those books every discuss the importance general cozinesss, of a good relationship turning you into all the things you want in another. The truth is I've seen cozier reality television shows and happier Iraqui prisoners than certain attractive, educated, financially stable people with family values in bad relationships.

I'm so over image I think I'm going to have to move to a tropical country, and live in a hut and fish for my food (not true, I still get my eyebrows done and wear Prescriptives Exact Matchstick Warm Buff 14...so worth the $40).

Just for today, I accept and value the importance of coziness in a relationship.