I am over the hump of extreme grief that came up upon hearing about my ex-boyfriend's new relationship. Having spoken to him, I remember why things didn't work out with him. While I'm struggling to have a conscious life and be present in my feelings, he is still living on planet Emotional Shut-Down. There were other small differences, but I wonder if those matter at all. Do I really need to be with someone who read "The Great Gatsby" twenty times? Do I care if someone shares my political beliefs? Do I really care what my partner thinks about our president? What does all that matter, if two people can share their feelings of mutual love and respect. I guess I'm relieved to know that I'm not as shallow as I thought I was. I guess what I really want is to be with someone who knows what's going on with himself. Just for today, I am getting over the pain of breaking up.