In a concerted effort to avoid returning to fantasies of old boyfriends (which inevitably lead to phone calls TO old boyfriends, which consequently lead to DATES WITH old boyfriends, and so on...), I have decided to turn my thoughts over to an ideal of a healthy relationship. So, you ask, what is a healthy relatioship? Good question. A healthy relationships involves very little drama, guilt and manipulation. Having obtained a black-belt in guilt, I have since decided to lay down these apparent useless skills (unless I'm working in sales or raising money for a non-profit) and approach the world of dating with a "for fun and for free attitude." In my pre-Debtor's Anonymous days, I did master the "free" part of this philsophy and used dating as a tool for eating out (today I always shoot for Even Steven). A healthy relationship makes people want to spend time together and share things together. A healthy relationship fuels trust and confidence and helps each participant be more fully themselves. Just for today, I can fantasize about a healthy relationship.