It's OK to not be a traditional person. Many of my female friends are following traditional roles of becoming wives and mothers. I, on the other hand, am a single human being. Strangely, this is not a role that has a definition in our society, outside of the term "single." I once asked my mom if I could have a celebration of my singlehood and receive gifts for my home and she just laughed at me.

A few weekends ago, I attended the wedding of two friends who I have known since the 6th grade. It was a traditional Jewish wedding with environmental overtones (they put the planet in their vows and had the ceremony surrounded by trees) and Mexican food. They had a Klezmer band and some of the men lifted them each up on chairs. (Fortunately, I was in Fiddler on the Roof in the fifth grade so the dance moves were no problem for this Catholic girl.) Seeing my friends take this big leap of faith and follow in this long tradition made me wonder if there is something wrong with me that keeps me from trusting any sort of traditional role. I decided that I'm just untraditional and if that means that I still shop in the Jr.'s department of stores and have babies in my mid-forties, that's OK. My life doesn't have to be about finding a mate. Just for today, it's OK to not be traditional.